When you think you’re hiding your Broken Relationship
Have you ever noticed how people walk when they are wearing an uncomfortable, but a very nice pair of shoes? It’s like they are trying to pretend that they are comfortable, but clearly they’re not. They try to camouflage the discomfort by making adjustments in their stride as if that’s the way the shoes are supposed to fit, or that their awkward stride is intentional. But we know that’s not true because from the outside looking in, we tend to recognize other peoples discomfort, quicker than they think and sometimes, more clearly than we see our own. As they say, it’s hard to see the picture when you are the frame. Those shoes may be unique, fashionably intense, and cost effective, however, we can’t afford to allow temporary benefits to cause us to sacrifice the most important element of the shoes, comfort.
As they say, if the shoe fits wear it, needles to say, if it doesn’t, then leave it alone.
Naturally, we would simply leave uncomfortable shoes in the store, or we can just ask the salesman to see if they have the correct size in stock or perhaps at a different store location. So we ask these questions because we are truly interested, and are willing to go the extra mile to get them.
Fortunately, as in the shoe scenario, relationships aren’t designed to be uncomfortable, troublesome, or painful either The key is to know when to walk away, and not force a fit, or give in to 50 shades of excuses.
We must also remember that we do not have the luxury of retuning the relationship within 30 days for a full refund or a replacement.
So rather than trying to conceal or pretend that the broken relationship is fine, and hoping no one is aware of it, let’s be true to ourselves, and take a look at these six strategies to use when we sense that it’s time to walk away.
1. Self-reflection:
Take time to evaluate your feelings and the dynamics of the relationship. Reflect on your needs, values, and long-term goals to determine if the relationship aligns with them.
2. Open communication:
Have an honest and open conversation with your partner about your concerns and feelings. Effective communication can help address issues and bring clarity to the situation, and surprisingly, bring you closer together.
3. Seek advice from trusted friends or family:
Reach out to people you trust for their perspective on the relationship. They can provide valuable insights and support during difficult decisions.
4. Set boundaries:
Establish clear boundaries in the relationship to protect your emotional and mental well-being. Boundaries help maintain a healthy balance and prevent potential harm.
5. Assess red flags:
Pay attention to any warning signs or red flags that may indicate the relationship is not in your best interest, such as controlling behavior, lack of respect, or inconsistent actions.
6. Consider professional help:
If you’re uncertain about the relationship’s impact on your well-being, consider seeking guidance from a Relationship Coach, Psychologist, or Counselor, who can provide expert advice and help you make informed decisions.
In conclusion, we tend to walk around troubled and miserable, hoping that we look better on the outside then we actually feel on the inside. We’d like to think that the true status of our relationship is camouflaged by the faux smiles, hand holding, or matching attire.
Instead, let’s either find a resolution to dispose of the core issues, or just admit that this relationship is really not a good fit.